Don’t Rush- Enjoy Your Appetizer!
Everyone knows the tip, to take your time with foreplay, but does anyone really take the info to heart? It can be hard to slow down when you are excited to jump right in. No matter your age, or the age of your relationship, foreplay should always be a priority.
Lubricants and Massage Oils
I know what you’re thinking- they just told me NOT to rush! While many people view lube as a way to quickly dip in, you’re missing half the fun if that is all you’re using it for. Massage oils are great to help you and your partner unwind. Remember, less is more! You can always add extra, but its hard when you’ve poured out too much.
A great way to extend your play with lube is to pour a dime-sized amount in your mouth (we suggest something flavored like Frutopia for this, or coconut oil) and let it warm up. After a few seconds, the lube will help no matter where you put your mouth.
Restraints and Light Bondage
A surefire way to extend foreplay is by roping your partner into it. Literally. Bondage rope, tether straps, and handcuffs are all good choices. Please remember that the safest and most pleasurable play will be with tools actually constructed for BDSM. You want your bedroom tools to come from a sex shop, not the hardware store. If you are feeling adventurous, the Bed Bindings Restraing Kit is a great discreet addition to any bed. Read more about BDSM and rope play HERE.
Toys You Normally Use Solo
If you are only using your dildos and vibrators on your own, you’re missing out on half of the fun. These toys can totally be used with your partner. Before you know it, you will have rushed through foreplay again- but that just means you are that much more excited!
Cultural & Social Notes promoting Sexual Positivity
REMINDER
A note about gender and sexual fluidity: Nothing is usually set in black and white. Like life, gender and sexuality come in all variations (the "50 Shades of Grey" title makes a little more sense now, right?) There are many people who don't identify as the gender most often associated with their personal sexual organs. A person may also be straight, gay, or anywhere on the spectrum in between. If you would like to learn more about gender and sexuality terms, Arnold Zwicky has a wonderful guide HERE